By Nick & Jacqui Taimitarha, White Rose Modern Funerals
Nothing could have prepared us as modern funeral directors for the baptism of fire that became Covid 19. Regulations changed rapidly as we managed a dramatically higher death toll. Thankfully, as we write, we are back to normalised times with the numbers of funerals we manage.
For families, having to deal with social isolation and the overwhelming emotions at the death of a family member was beyond tough. For ourselves, faced with limited numbers allowed to attend and austere restrictions, we looked at how to evolve ideas, so a small gathering did not mean a family farewell was going to be any less meaningful.
The journey to the funeral was often organised so neighbours, friends and family could gather along the route on the way – safely socially distanced. This led to some beautiful poignant scenes that helped the family to feel supported.
Live webcasting and video were used so friends and family in isolation could watch the service. Personal video messages or voice recordings were played. Often, with just a handful of immediate family attending they felt no need for a traditional eulogy, instead they wrote their own personal letter tributes.
Many families we worked with commented how they preferred not having the stress of a large crowd of people behind them and appreciated the intimacy. They felt they were able to express feelings more freely and say farewell in a more personal way. The hardest part was having to disperse after the funeral and not being allowed to socialise.
As modern funeral directors we have sought options that are not just limited to a crematorium if planning a cremation funeral. An additional 25 minute drive out of SW London can take families to a venue that is private, scenic and unrushed with up to an hour of service time. The current maximum of 30 people can attend in a safe and dignified setting.
Should you experience the death of a loved one and need guidance, please just call us. We’re an independent husband and wife team, based in Teddington, covering SW London and Surrey here to help you.
Telephone: 020 3281 1045 available 24/7
13 The Causeway, Teddington, TW11 0JR